Missing Singapore, wanted to put on his singlet/vest.

Trying to put on teddy bear's bag.

Phil said, it's a family thing, taking picture of yourself, cos my sisters and cousins do that too. Ha ha ha...

Phil when he was young.

Phil's brother, John, Phil & their dad.

John, Phil and their mum who passed away on 5 January 2008 at the age of 87.

Phil & his late mum.

Looks like Zack??? My sis, Juan said, looks very like Zack.

Zack with his saw from his por por in Singapore. Thank for the tshirt for Phil, mine top and Zack's toy. Phil likes the t-shirt, he wore it once he opened it. Zack don't like the noise of his toy saw. He said "don't like it" and asked to "put it away" or "put it up there". THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

In bed with daddy.

Fast asleep in on mum and dad's bed while daddy at grand-dad's.



Playing mum's Nintendo DS (or Zack call it pencil cos of the stylus which he think it's pencil).

With uncle John (or Zack call Tom).

Everything kind of been sorted out, registered death at the registrar, inform friends and relatives, notify doctor, etc. Now is just waiting for the funeral on Wednesday. As Phil's mum is the youngest in the family, all her 8 other siblings (2 brothers and 6 sisters) aren't around. It left with some cousins who are quite elderly too, therefore, no relative might be at the funeral. Well, it is sad isn't it. Let this be a family funeral then, I suppose some friends and neighbours might be there.

Anyway, Phil's mum and dad's doctor called to discuss about his dad's situation, the doctor said, reading the past notes and seen him last week, he seems to be deteriorating, there's nothing much he can do, it's just old age, the doctor will get the district nurse to ring Phil.

At the moment, Phil and his brother, John are sorting things out, like things to be done in the house, paper works, etc. Zack and I have not seen Phil's dad since 7 January. He is not handling visitors and noise very well, he doesn't like the television on, etc. So the best is let him be until the funeral. He is griefing. He doesn't want changes in the house. Let's pray and hope he will come round after the funeral.

After the funeral, we will have to sort things out like, getting someone in to visit Phil's dad while Phil's get back to work, we worry that he will call Phil in the middle of the night or early morning.

Phil went to Poole Hospital to collect his mum's property from the Patients' Property section. Phil came back with his mum's clothes, a pair of glasses, slippers and walking stick. Zack saw them and said, "grandma's". Sad isn't it? Zack will miss her. We are trying not to mention the word "grandma" infront of Zack and trying not to remind Zack of grandma too.

Sometimes Zack will still mention grandma, when we are about to arrive at Phil's dad house, Zack will say grandma's house. Now, we have to change him to say grandad's house. Sigh...

Anyway, Phil collected the death certificate too and went to the registrar office to register his mum's death. On the death certificate, the doctor wrote that she died of pneumonia. Well...it is a very common illness where most elderly people die of. At least she died without any trauma or with tubes or machines around her. I suppose it's kindof a peaceful death. Well...now most things had been sorted and settled except to attend the funeral. It's going to be a quiet one, as she doesn't has many relatives, she is the youngest, most of her elder sisters died, left with some cousins. Can't imagine and think what will happen on that day, as in, how Phil's dad going to handle it. At the moment, he is not handling it very well, he looks upset, down, confused, etc... Phil has to deal with everything, including the funeral arrangement. God please strengthen Phil physically and mentally. He has to look after his dad now, it isn't easy when he go back to work. O God, you know and planned our future, please help us Lord.

Carrying a bag of bricks my great-grandaunty bought. Like the noise of the bricks rattle when I run...

Fell asleep soon after talking to por por, juan and fong...tiring man...

I took away some blog regarding my mother-in-law, it's sad to put it on my blog as it might affect some of you emotionally or spoil your day. Anyway, the funeral will be held on 16 January 08, Wednesday 11am.

Always be remembered!

Obviously, it is a sad time. I was sad too. I have to give my support to Phil and look after Zack at the same time. I have to be strong too. Going to Phil's dad's house, is sad. Feel strange. Zack is not helping when he kept looking for grandma, it makes me wanted to cry, especially Phil. But there's nothing we could do. She's been remembered. I cried without anyone noticing, in the shower or in the toilet, I have to support Phil, so best not to cry infront of him. Phil and his dad are very upset.

It's Sunday tomorrow, usually we will look forward to Phil's mum to call between 9.30am and 9.45am, to get us to buy 2 pints of milk.

You are deeply missed!!!

REST IN PEACE!

At about 5am, nurse from Poole Hospital called and told Phil that his mum is not doing well, Phil changed and left for his dad's house soon after he put the phone down with the nurse. The nurse told Phil that his mum had quite a bad night last night. Phil's dad was so fast asleep that Phil can't wake him and he locked the doors on the inside, Phil can't get in. Phil decided to go to the hospital on his own. At about 6am, nurse called again, told me that she had passed away. I called Phil immediately, he was on his way to the hospital anyway. Phil called me after he had seen his mum, think she might have gave up. Yesterday, Phil told me that she has bloated stomach just like my grandmother. She got Phil to massage his stomach. She was in pain. She had been sleeping and waking up and dozing off and sometimes nagged at Phil and his dad. And now she is gone. I cried thinking of her. Though only known her for about 3 years, she is a nice lady.

I will miss her. Miss her calling us every Sunday morning to get us to buy 2 pints of milk. Miss going over to visit her. The last time I saw her was on Christmas day.

Rest in peace. I believe Zack will miss you too.

Phil has to deal with his dad now. Think his dad has Alzheimer, he forget things very easily. He is very loyal to his wife. He was very upset when his wife was in hospital. Lord I pray that you be with Phil and his dad, strengthen them, be with them right now, grant them peace in their heart.

I was doing washing in the kitchen, saw this dog with a kinda Christmas ribbon on the dog's collar, pointed it out to Phil, Phil got me to take a picture of it. Cute huh?

Phil's mum still in the hospital. Slightly better than yesterday. But still not brilliant, she's been sleeping. The nurses said she's calmer than yesterday, but in medical terms, not too good. They going to bring her for x-ray. Kidney not functioning properly. Let's hope and pray that she will get better.

Time now, 11.55pm. Phil just came back from hospital and after sending his dad home. Phil's mum is in hospital, she has pneumonia, some enormous infection and stomach problem. She collapsed on the floor this afternoon but was conscious, she threw up some brown stuffs. She's got drips with saline and strong antibiotics overnight. That should help her get better tomorrow. Please help me to pray for her. THANKS!

While I am typing this, Phil is on the phone with his brother in NZ.

I shed tears too watching this. Thank you God for our lovely grands and our family. Love and miss you all!!!!!

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Thank you God for saving my grands' life.
After what she had gone through in the hospital, from critical condition to good to critical and now she is still in GOOD condition. Thank you God. Thank You for listening to our cries. Thank You for listening to our prayers. Continue to grant them good health. Strengthen them Lord. Thank You so much Lord. Preserve them Lord.

Lord, I want to commit Phil's mum into your hand. She had just been sent to hospital. She started out with constipation. Doc said she's got chest infection. Lord, you had healed my grandmum, I pray that you will heal Phil's mum too. Lord, strengthen her, be with her, grant her peace, take away the pain and the discomfort in her Lord. I pray that you strengthen Phil's dad too Lord, grant him peace too, he is worried Lord. Lord, strengthen Phil too, Lord, help him to be patient Lord. You are the Healer, may your healing hands be upon Phil's mum Lord. In all these I pray. Amen.

Eating cheese and donut at grandma and grandad's house.



























Eating dim sum on New Year's Day! And my mum's belated birthday treat from daddy.